Anonymous asked:

I know this is probably weird to ask (you don't have to answer if you don't want to), but: how did you become so comfortable with sex and sexuality? I am a 27 year old woman, and I have this tremendous sense of shame connected to it - mostly because of my extremely conservative and religious upbringing + also from a history of sexual abuse in my past. It's like... I can't be sexual because then I just feel bad. I didn't even masturbate until this year. :(

This is a hard and heavy question. I want to submit it to adult-mag for the Advice section, so that more people than me can answer it, only I don’t know how to get your permission, since you’re anon. Is there a way you can email me directly? Nobody but me would ever know your name, and I’m a very good safekeeper.

Anonymous asked:

how to recover from things getting out to a wonderfully promising start with a man, before having him promptly dismiss you? how do i be a tough bitch about this all?

To be real, I don’t know. My mode in romance is generally more “raging” than “tough.” Show even one sign of forgetting me and I’ll set fire to the bridge. Maybe watch Dita Von Teese on the art of break-ups with dignity? But also, fuck letting men get away with murdering you! All these bitches like “faking your orgasms is bad for sisterhood” but none of them will say that maybe faking being “over it” is just as bad, that maybe if you told a man exactly what he’d done he’d consider not doing it again? Again—I don’t know. But I’ve been thinking.